• @derfl007@lemmy.world
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    01 year ago

    it doesn’t have to be about property, it can be about showing off that your officially one family now. And i think that’s a valid reason for changing your last name (aka family name)

    You can always opt to take on a double name, you can both take on your wife’s name if you prefer that, or whatever. But just because a woman chooses to take her husband’s name, doesn’t mean that she’s now his property. Your children also aren’t your property just because they have your last name

    • @BeigeAgenda@lemmy.ca
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      1 year ago

      A bit off-topic the last part reminds me of Terry Pratchett - Lords and Ladies

      The Lancre Morris Men the mixup of name and occupation is a good gag.

      • Jason Ogg (occupation: smith and farrier)
      • Baker (weaver)
      • Bestiality Carter (baker)
      • Obidiah Carpenter (tailor, poacher, cesspit cleaner, and carpenter)
      • Tailor (weaver)
      • Thatcher (carter)
      • Tinker (tinker)
      • Weaver (thatcher)
    • @jpeps@lemmy.world
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      01 year ago

      Absolutely, for many it’s nice to be under one name even if there is no legal need. I do think though that in a world where taking the male family name is not a default and anything can happen, double barrelling becomes problematic as a solution. You can only double barrel so many times! We need a new tradition that is equal for everyone and scales well. My favourite is what I once witnessed at a fantastic wedding. Before cutting their cake, the happy couple literally did a coin flip to choose who would take the other’s name. It was easily the most exciting part of the day.

    • @triplenadir@lemmygrad.ml
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      01 year ago

      changing names when getting married isn’t the same as one partner changing their name to the other’s, who doesn’t change theirs…

      • @Gabu@lemmy.ml
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        01 year ago

        Wow, congratulations, your little observation saved the world! There’s no more sexism, racism, nor any sort of abuse thanks to you! Well done.